I think most of us have in mind a homeschool journey that is full of serene, orderly days when we first start out. We plan for smooth schedules and obedient, enthusiastic children. But, as we try to teach them, we keep running up against something.
You ask your daughter to read a paragraph and she has a meltdown. Your son gives you an attitude when you explain another way to work out a math problem. Your kids start fighting over who’s going to do which part of the science experiment.
Or maybe you have lofty goals of your children becoming world changers, but you seem to be stuck in a never ending loop of correcting the same behaviors. If homeschooling isn’t going to “fix them”, then why bother?
Too many moms give up on homeschooling or are reluctant to even start because their relationship with their child is fraught with tension, and only exacerbated by the demands of home education.
We begin to think they’d be better off being taught by someone else. I believe that, underneath it all, what we’re really saying is, “This is HARD!”
Should that come as a surprise though?
Home education is messy. It is dealing with and confronting the effects of the Fall head on, up close and personal.
Brokenness is felt keenly every day in my homeschool, and there is no 6-7 hour per weekday escape from it. No reprieve from the sinful behavior my kids display. And the sinful responses they provoke in me.
Comparatively, it can seem far, far easier to send children away to be taught by others. It involves less time, less trauma, less turmoil. It would temporarily solve the discomfort of having to deal with your kids’ actions, but it would also bypass the sanctifying work of working through those problems with your child.
So when you want to quit homeschooling, do these 4 things instead:
There’s nothing too hard for God. When we give up on educating our children because of difficult relationship issues, we’re essentially saying that this is an area where He doesn’t have control.
If I’m at a loss about how I can help my kids, or how to reach them, I can seek God in prayer to receive these answers. After all, He knows each one intimately and is therefore able to help me discover their needs and how to train them as He intends.
He says to us, “Call to Me, and I will answer you, and I will tell you great and mighty things, which you do not know” (Jeremiah 33:3). Invite Him to step into that difficult situation and give you insight into your child’s behavior.
Read the rest over at The Character Corner, where I’m joining up with other mom bloggers for the 30 Days of Homeschooling Encouragement and Inspiration Series!