If you’ve been a girl mom for any length of time, you’ve probably struggled to find acceptable wardrobe options for her. Skinny jeans, plunging necklines, and pants plastered with saying across the rear abound on the clothing store racks. Costumes for dance recitals seem to get shorter and skimpier every year.
The fashion trend in our culture is not to cover up, but to show it off!
Even though my daughter is only six, the battle over appropriate outfits has already begun. She practically lives in leggings, and it’s a fight to get her into a pair of jeans once in a while.
I don’t want it to become an even bigger battle later on, when the stakes are higher. For her right now, it’s all about comfort.
But I know in the not too distant future, she won’t understand why she can’t wear the comfy, see-through shirt or the daisy duke shorts that may be a stumbling visual block.
We have to be careful that as our daughters are growing and maturing, though, we don’t force a bunch of man-made rules on them. Modesty is so much more than just making sure your top doesn’t reveal too much cleavage; it’s an attitude of the heart!
A woman who is covered up can still have a thoroughly immodest attitude. Each of us must be less concerned with rules of dress and more concerned with the heart of the matter before the Lord.
Here are 5 practical ways to teach your girl about true modesty:
Teach her humility.
Your daughter must understand the importance of a modest heart before you even begin discussing the issue of dress with her. True modesty means not purposely drawing attention to one’s self. Your daughter may not wear immodest clothing, but she may still obsess over matching the colors of her outfits or spend hours in front of the mirror on her hair.
Pride and vanity can be so very subtle. And honestly, pride and vanity can almost seem pretty cute when they come packaged in a sweet little person whom you love and adore. But pride is still a sin and must be dealt with.
Teach her from a young age that she shouldn’t dress in a certain way because her friends will think she’s pretty or compliment her. When she says “so-and-so will love my outfit”, respond with “I bet she’ll be really happy to see you, too!” Steer her heart towards the underlying problem- pride points others to one’s self; humility points people toward Jesus.
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