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10 Bible Verses To Address Your Child’s Behaviors

March 23, 2018

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My six-year-old daughter’s behavior has been off the rails lately. Emotions too big for someone her size. An attitude and tone of voice too ugly for someone so beautiful.

I used to be soft in the discipline department once upon a time, and this has allowed weeds to grow that now need to be pulled. One day I wised up, and became like Denzel Washington in Remember The Titans when he took over the team.

Discipline is good and necessary, but discipline alone tends to focus only on changing external behavior. Obedience gets the job done, but the heart deals with how the job is done.

One of the goals we have as parents is helping our children to replace the wrong beliefs they have in their hearts. These beliefs create tension in family and sibling relationships.

It’s amazing how many areas of a child’s thinking can be corrected by looking at God’s Word. Kids may become inspired through reading other books or hearing a story on tv and social media, but the Bible has the unusual power to change the human heart. 

If God’s Word is our standard for living, then we should use it in the correction of our children! 2 Timothy 3:16 says, “All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness.”

Kids learn valuable lessons about daily life and how to treat others when we share the Scriptures with them. They take root in a child’s heart, equipping the conscience and guiding a child’s internal motivations.

Presenting a solution for their problems from God’s Word gives children a vision for something better.

But knowing exactly which scriptures to use in various situations can be challenging. And let’s face it; there are A LOT of different scenarios where our kids need guidance and correction.

It’s kind of like playing Whack A Mole- once you’ve addressed one problem, another one pops up right behind it!

We need to remember though, that behaviors ultimately come from what’s lurking inside the heart. Here are 10 Scriptures you can reference easily when dealing with your kids’ behaviors, along with the heart issues behind them.

10 verses you can reference easily when dealing with your kids' behaviors, plus FREE printable! #christianparenting #disciplineforkids #charactertraining #growingkidsfaith #familydiscipleship

1. Selfishness

Your child insists on being first and doesn’t like to wait his turn. He doesn’t understand honor, which is treating others as special and doing more than what’s expected.

Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. – Romans 12:10

2. Lying

You catch your daughter in several lies when you ask her if she accomplished certain tasks and then discover later that she never did them.

Dishonesty can be easier than putting forth effort, and usually happens when your kids are under pressure- to get out of trouble, to get something when the answer is no, or to be liked by others.

People with integrity walk safely, but those who follow crooked paths will be exposed. – Proverbs 10:9

3. Complaining

Your kids give you a hard time about even the smallest requests, or when they’re asked to do something they don’t enjoy. Like lying, complaining comes from not understanding how to work hard.

Your child may believe that the primary goal in life is fun and entertainment. Complaining also comes from not being able to handle disappointment.

Not that I was ever in need, for I have learned how to be content with whatever I have. – Philippians 4:11

4. Arguing

If your son constantly plays the lawyer and points out that you failed to specify certain parameters in your original instructions, he is not obeying out of love. We want our children to keep God’s commandments and love Him.

These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me. – Matthew 15:8

5. Meanness

Your daughter speaks unkindly to her siblings and is inconsiderate of others. She could be acting out of hurt feelings or jealousy.

Your kindness will reward you, but your cruelty will destroy you. – Proverbs 11:17

verses to help your child when they're misbehaving

6. Bad Attitudes

Your son displays a poor attitude when losing or responds badly when you discipline him. He doesn’t know how to communicate his emotions and believes the lie that he isn’t good enough.

Instead, let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. – Ephesians 4:23

7. Unforgiveness

Your child holds grudges and is easily offended. He may not understand the depth or extent to which he has been forgiven, and the meaning of grace.

Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you. – Ephesians 4:32

8. Blaming

Your child blames others for her actions and feelings, or justifies offenses. She won’t admit that she’s at fault, because she isn’t equipped to handle guilt.

She also mistakenly believes that if she needs to be corrected, it means she is stupid.

To learn, you must love discipline; it is stupid to hate correction. – Proverbs 12:1

9. Laziness

Your kids only do a job part way. They value their activity and agenda more than an uncomfortable task, and don’t grasp the responsibility to always do more than what’s expected.

Take a lesson from the ants, you lazybones. Learn from their ways and become wise! – Proverbs 20:6

10. Comparison

Your daughter always wants to be the first or best and competes in ways that lead to conflict. She measures her worth by comparing herself to others and doesn’t see the value of serving.

And whoever wants to be first among you must be the slave of everyone else. – Mark 10:44

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  1. Tiffany says

    March 28, 2018 at 8:36 pm

    wow, it’s like you read my mind. I was just thinking that I need a verse to match the behavior… we are going to start writing them out with my 3rd grader. Thanks for the printable to make it easy to apply!

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  2. Mia says

    May 21, 2018 at 11:48 am

    I have a 14 yr old daughter and a 5 yr old son. Lately they both have been exhibiting negative behavior and character which has left me feeling like a failure at parenting. Your post has strengthen my faith and given me hope. Thank you!!!

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    • Marisa says

      May 22, 2018 at 5:38 pm

      Oh Mia, I am so glad you were encouraged. Parenting is so very hard sometimes, isn’t it? I pray you can use the printable to help guide you through some of those tough situations. You’ve got this mama! 🙂

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  3. Sarah @ Christ-Centered Mama says

    August 24, 2018 at 2:26 am

    Teaching our children that the Bible applies to our everyday situations is so vital. This is a helpful resource!!

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